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Flowers For Richard
Sunday, 2 November 2014 04:23 So yesterday I went out with my cousin and her boyfriend for "Day of the Dead." First, we visited her grandparents, our great-grandparents, and our great-uncle, Gordon. Now a short little story is coming out of seeing our great-grandparents' grave. My great-grandmother died in 2006. My Aunt Barbara forced my grandma's hand and made her agree to cremation. This is NOT what my great-grandmother wanted and I hope she rips her a new asshole when they meet again. Anyway, so she took possession of the ashes and wouldn't bury them. So, for years we thought she was just keeping these ashes, but it turns out she might have actually laid her to rest.
There is a death year on the grave stone for her. It's not the correct date, but it still means her ashes might have finally been buried with my great-grandfather right? I don't know, but I hope that is the case.
We drove up to Holly next to see my grandpa. This was my second time visiting him there and it still feels weird seeing his name on that grave stone. I don't think I will ever really get over that. I have my good and my bad days, but I wish he was still here. I miss that calming influence he had. We all really need that right now in our lives.
A row behind him and two or three spaces to the left is the grave of a guy named Richard. The first time we went to go visit my grandfather we happened to help Richard's sister and his friend find his grave. When I first noticed the stone I saw his year of birth was the same as my own. Then, I noticed a tiny Captain America shield in front of the grave. But the thing the got me was that we were the same age, even if he was two months younger. So, when we were there I left some flowers on his grave as well and I feel like this will be a tradition for me. I know it seems weird, I never knew Richard. But I feel like this is more for me than him, like I need to do this. Is it weird I am doing this?
I just hope if his family finds out that they won't be mad at me for doing this.
There is a death year on the grave stone for her. It's not the correct date, but it still means her ashes might have finally been buried with my great-grandfather right? I don't know, but I hope that is the case.
We drove up to Holly next to see my grandpa. This was my second time visiting him there and it still feels weird seeing his name on that grave stone. I don't think I will ever really get over that. I have my good and my bad days, but I wish he was still here. I miss that calming influence he had. We all really need that right now in our lives.
A row behind him and two or three spaces to the left is the grave of a guy named Richard. The first time we went to go visit my grandfather we happened to help Richard's sister and his friend find his grave. When I first noticed the stone I saw his year of birth was the same as my own. Then, I noticed a tiny Captain America shield in front of the grave. But the thing the got me was that we were the same age, even if he was two months younger. So, when we were there I left some flowers on his grave as well and I feel like this will be a tradition for me. I know it seems weird, I never knew Richard. But I feel like this is more for me than him, like I need to do this. Is it weird I am doing this?
I just hope if his family finds out that they won't be mad at me for doing this.
